Embracing All Our Parts Grows Our Compassion For Others | Dr. Richard C. Schwarz, Internal Family Systems (IFS)
When you accept all the parts of you, you activate eight C’s of your core self , namely; curiosity, calm, clarity, compassion, confidence, creativity, connectedness, and courage. When we are filled up with these qualities, we can feel for someone, without being overwhelmed by them.
In this episode, Dr. Richard C. Schwartz joins Traci to talk about self-leadership and the links between some of the current events of our time: injustice of all kinds, politics, and empathy across divides and the need to meet all our parts with care so shame doesn’t drive them underground.
Dr. Schwartz is the founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS). He came up with a theory that we are all made up of parts, and different parts of us could be burdened, causing us not to be okay. He also found that when the parts felt safe and were allowed to relax, we spontaneously experienced the qualities of confidence, openness, and compassion that Dr. Schwartz came to call the Self with a capital ‘S’. He found that when in that state of self, we know how to heal.
Listen in as Traci and Dr. Schwartz help us understand the multiple parts theory of IFS and how it works.
Episode Timeline:
[ 06:26] What would Dick want to be changed in therapists’ training?
[10:39] Richard’s multiple parts theory
[16:50] Do we all have multiple parts despite having a smooth childhood?
[17:52] Self Leadership Is...
[19:23] The eight C’s: Qualities that come out when you accept yourself
[20:20] What should listeners be mindful of when listening to someone whose parts might come up and maybe not emphasized?
[24:30] How culture influences some of our parts
[28:11] How Internal Family Systems is stretching beyond the therapist office
[34:19] Richard’s words of wisdom
Resources Mentioned:
Standout Quotes:
“A burden is an extreme belief, emotion or energy that comesfrom some trauma or, bad event in our lives and attaches almost like a virus.” [13:00]
“The ego is just a collection of these little manager parts trying their best to keep you safe. They need love, too. They don’t need to be disparaged.” [30:16]
“It is possible to burnout and people who burn out typically are those who, in trying to help somebody, feel like they have to take in their emotions.” [34:31]
“If you’re full in compassion, you don’t necessarily feel what the client is feeling. But you feel a lot for them, you have a strong desire to help them. You don’t necessarily have to feel their feelings [to feel for them].” [35:49]
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